Funeral Homily for Kathy McCurry-The Rev Melanie Lemburg
The Rev Melanie
Lemburg
Funeral Homily for
Kathy McCurry
November 30, 2023
“Though she be but little, she is fierce.” As I was thinking about Kathy McCurry, this line
from Shakespeare’s play A Midsummer Night’s Dream came to mind. “Though she be but little, she is fierce.”
I spent some time last week with Cliff
and Jamie, and they told me so many wonderful stories about Kathy. I took detailed notes, and so I want use many
of their words to talk about Kathy.
The first thing Jamie told me is that he
gets his tardiness from her; and the second thing he said was that any athletic
prowess that her sons exhibited was inherited from her. She was an incredible water skier, an avid
tennis player, and oh, she loved to dance, and she especially love to dance the
shag. Cliff said that even when disco
was all the rage, and they took lessons, she would always turn it into a shag
dance. She was so good that she and
Tommy Hester would always win the Shag dance contest at the Yacht Club. Cliff admitted that he couldn’t dance the Shag
with her because “she’d never let me lead.”
Both
Cliff and Jamie talked about how Kathy nurtured them, their family, and anyone
else who needed taking care of; she was such a supportive wife and mother, and she
had a gift for nurturing people to success.
She was a hard-worker, a do-er who was often asked to serve in
leadership roles because she was so effective.
We
saw that here at St. Thomas in her work on the Vestry (our leadership board)
and on a Search Committee (which is the group that works to find a new priest
for the church) along with so many other endeavors. Probably her deepest joy here at the church was
her ministry singing in the choir. She
sang in this choir for over 40 years.
(Do you know how many choir rehearsals that must add up to?)
She
had a wonderful sense of humor along with a bit of a stubborn streak. Jamie tells the story of getting cross-wise
with her one day as a teenager, when he and his friend Carey Zipperer were in
the car with Kathy. Kathy got so mad at Jamie that she made him get out of the
car on Jameswood Avenue, and drove off and left him there to walk home (with Carey
still in the car with her). She and Carey
were laughing by the time they got to the Dutch Island gates, and she turned
around and went back to retrieve Jamie, who couldn’t believe she had driven off
and left him. She was always a very
forgiving person, especially to Cliff, Jamie, and Lee.
But
out of all those things, Kathy’s absolute, most-favorite job was being “Nana”
to her grandkids. She had a sign in her
kitchen that Jamie swears was the absolute truth. It says, “If Mamma won’t, Nanna will.” Oh, how she cherished you grandkids.
Cliff
shared that he and Kathy had been dating just a short time when they were in
high school, and she was supposed to come over for dinner to meet Cliff’s
mom. The night before that dinner, Cliff
found his mom on the floor in the kitchen, collapsed from a cerebral hemorrhage. He called Kathy on the phone and asked her to
come over, essentially telling her “I need you.” And she came to be with him in that horrible
moment. She was 16. That’s the kind of person she was; she showed
up when you needed her.
I’ve been a priest for almost 20
years. I’ve walked alongside a lot of
people as they neared death, and I have never seen a person fight for life and
love with such tenacity and endurance as Kathy McCurry. She worked hard every single day to cling to
as much of herself as she could as PSP tried to diminish and disappear
her. Her courage and grit in the face of
so much adversity has been a revelation of how love can so often look like
sheer determination to keep going.
Today we gather to give thanks for
Kathy, to celebrate the multitude of moments of joy with her, the good and
faithful life that she lived and the way that she loved fiercely. We also gather to mourn her loss among us, to
mourn that disease has the power to steal someone so lively and vibrant from
us. We gather to remember our faith,
Kathy’s faith, that death is not the end, but a change. That our Lord Jesus goes before us to prepare
a place for us in his dwelling place in God’s eternal life where there is no
more suffering or grieving or diminishing, but only growth from strength to
strength in God’s love. We gather to remember
the hope of Easter, the essential hope of our faith: that through Jesus’s death and resurrection,
God has proven, once and for all, that God’s love is stronger than absolutely
anything. Stronger than disease. Stronger than death.
And we gather to remember that we will
one day be reunited with Kathy at God’s heavenly banquet, where she will, no
doubt, be singing in the heavenly chorus.
Maybe even this song that she picked for us to sing this day, which is
her last gift and message to us:
Hymn
of Promise
In
the bulb, there is a flower; in the seed, an apple tree;
In
cocoons, a hidden promise; butterflies will soon be free!
In
the cold and snow of winter there's a spring that waits to be,
Unrevealed
until its season, something God alone can see.
There's
a song in every silence, seeking word and melody;
There's
a dawn in every darkness, bringing hope to you and me.
From
the past will come the future; what it holds, a mystery,
Unrevealed
until its season, something God alone can see.
In
our end is our beginning; in our time, infinity;
In
our doubt, there is believing; in our life, eternity,
In
our death, a resurrection; at the last, a victory
Unrevealed
until its season, something God alone can see.
Sing it for us, Kathy, until we meet
again.
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